As much as I would like to consider myself as superhuman and able to rise over any situation and be the better man that’s not always the case. My wife constantly catches me being negative, cranky, complaining, and miserable for the sake of being miserable. Despite knowing that these immature actions reflect terribly on my own sense of well being and that of my relationship to my wife it’s sometimes all too easy to go on the nega-monster autopilot. Similar to how little control you have to stop or control yourself going down a steep waterslide. Whether you like it or not you are going down and it’s gravity that is control. And unlike Elphaba we don’t have magic power to defy gravity.
Or do we?
One thing we’ve been taught since we are little is to avoid dangerous situations. We may have learned from burning our hand on the stove that it’s a dangerous situation, but the recollected pain of that experience usually means we are careful not to repeat that experience. It doesn’t mean that the pain overwhelms us and we can never approach the stove again to cook a meal we are just aware of our boundaries and limits and respect them while preparing a tasty meal.
And eating a tasty meal or snack is the first part of knowing our limits and avoiding dangerous situations to our relationship with ourselves and others.
In Alcoholics Anonymous they have an acronym on when to slow things down and take corrective action before things get out of hand. It is called H.A.L.T..
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H= Hungry. Don’t let yourself get too hungry. An irritable and cranky stomach can sometimes overpower us and make us cranky too. If you feel hunger pains coming on best to grab some tasty nuts and figure out when you can eat something nutritious in the near future.
A=Angry. Again just like being hungry there is nothing innately wrong with Anger except when it controls you to make you a person that you don’t really like to be. It can set us on a negative course with causing harm to ourselves and others. In another post we’ll discuss some more about Anger, but for now sketch out a plan that can help you express and defuse your Anger energies. This could be something like withdrawing to breathe and vent, drawing something, going on a walk, or whatever works for you.
L=Lonely. There’s a difference between being alone and being lonely. You can even be in a room full of people and feel lonely. This is where a support network comes in with people to call on to help you feel connected. Sometimes they aren’t readily available, but even sending out a letter or email for help can be the support we need to weather a lonely storm.
T= Tired. This was another thing that trapped me into going down the negaslide. I was pushing my body day after day and it was crying back against me saying it needed some rest. Listen to your body and don’t be afraid to tell others that you love them, but you need to get some rest to be your best for them and yourself.
We do sometimes slip and go beyond our limits transforming into little negamonsters. Sometimes it’s because we consciously ignored the HALT warning signs and other times it’s something else entirely. Still being aware of our limits within HALT can help prevent many of those slides. And even when we do slide remember to pick yourself back up, apologize and repair any damage you may have done, and continue on.
We’re getting better each time we get back up.