Each wall a bully uses and puts up in our triangle (As described in the previous article) can’t just stay an unguarded wall or people will get through. In war times, world war one specifically, the soldiers within a war were the most fatal part of the war. As new guns came forward, old ways of using those guns came into play. The men stood in a line up and fired at each other. Worked before because often only one shot would be made. However, now these guns were semi-automatic and often automatic weapons.
The people in World War I had to modify their strategy, build deep trenches. Still, many of the old tactics were used. Now you’re asking yourself, what’s the point? Well there is one. Compare a bully to a superpower fighting to take control. I am not going to leave my building unprotected. No, I am going to use “soldiers” or tactics to keep my walls solid.
The revenge wall as I stated in the Bully “Punisher” article, is the most protected wall as it is the most capable wall of making damage. This wall will always be fortified in a bullies world. You need to have fire to fight a force you feel could bring you down to nothing. Thus, you have your army protecting your walls.
The soldiers are known in this article as “Punisher Soldiers”. These soldiers will be described as Collector, Sharp Shooter and Back stabber.
The first of the punisher soldiers is one who collects information to use it in case someone hurts you. The collector is ruthless. It takes your weaknesses and displays them out for everyone to see. It is not a very nice tactic but it works.
Everyone has weaknesses. ADHD people have a lot of sad history with their weaknesses. It has gotten them fired, it has made them an anxious wreck. Bullies pick up on that and send their “Collectors” to find such information and throw you into a pit of despair.
An example of a collector…Oh yes, I have one. A previous friend of mine her name was Candice (Not real name) had come out being very bubbly and sweet. She got to know my life and I told her about some boy trouble I had with my last fiancée. I had rushed into it and we split. As I was dating a new boy, she brought this back up to me about how I never think things through and brought up the boy. Not fun! She’s no longer my friend as this is one of many examples.
The next soldier is the sharp shooter. The Sharp Shooter doesn’t shoot to wound, they shoot to kill the other person’s spirit so they can’t come back. The Sharp shooter downplays other’s successes and make them look like nothing. They do this in order to make themselves feel better about just being them. Sharp shooter takes down any threat, anyone they feel is a threat than them.
Martha (Not real name) was good at this. A job posting went up for my job. You could see she was excited and showing off. Martha began cutting corners in her work to show people why she deserved the job. She did this so she could display what a good recreation staff she could be.
When I got my new job, she made it seem like nothing. She told people, “Oh, well she’s not doing real work, just recreation.” You know why she did that? Well simple, she applied for the job and didn’t get it. Instead, she played up rumors of my laziness to people. Martha told others she should have gotten my job. “You’re only good at your job because you play music, that is the only reason they brought you back!”
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So there you have it, fortifiers of the revenge wall show their true colors. This wall seems to hurt the most. However ADDer’s don’t despair. The tactics used are most visible. They happen every day thus, you can battle against them by not giving in.
We are good at beating ourselves up. SOOOOOO GOOOD! However, we are also good at fighting back. If you feel revenge creeping into your lives, enlist your own army. To counter the collector, remember about health care. I can choose not to ever disclose to the collector tactic. I can give out limited information. They don’t have to know my goals so they can turn them around. They don’t have to dig for negative stuff if I don’t give it to them.
Sharp shooters, lesson learned, if I’m not there, how can they shoot me? Don’t look for the next attack. Bullies are excited when you do. Regroup, take your forces back towards safe lines. Your spirit is too amazing to let get shot down.
Backstabbers are hiding everywhere. Now, don’t get me wrong, I am totally not into gossip but in this case, it’s okay. Warn people of who this person is. Tell them to watch out. Set border patrols or blockades so they can’t get through to you again. I know that it isn’t easy for a person to do that. Learn, “NO!” Get rid of people with backstabbing tactics, not worth it.
Remember you are worth it. These people bring about negative times within another’s life. However, you are beautiful/handsome person. SAY NO SAY IT LOUD AND PROUD. I will not, no I will not let you do this to me. Report it whether it be at work, home or school. Violence and bullying cannot be tolerated.
And on a side note, I met my “Revenge” wall bully. After three years. Claudia (Not real name) was at an education conference I was attending. I wanted so badly to scream at her, tell her how she tried to ruin my life didn’t happen. However, it was merely a defense mechanism and I shut it down. I realized then, I have no reason to hate her anymore. She is not a part of my life.
Anyway, I am Stephanie, I love my bully and I have ADHD. I don’t appreciate what she did but I will respect her.